Family speak about the benefits of accessing hospice care

Posted on 09 February 2017.

Sue Rai and her family were supported by the hospice in 2011 when her mother-in-law, affectionately known as Bibi Rai, was supported by our homecare team. 

Sue comments: “We always said we wanted to take care of Bibi ourselves so when the word hospice was mentioned we were worried because like most people we had this idea that once you go into the hospice you never come out.

“A man named David Jurisic who works in the hospice’s homecare team came to our house and explained that the care offered in the hospice can be brought to you in the home and that was so reassuring. It meant that we could care for Bibi ourselves but there were still doctors and nurses at the hospice who could help us. 

“Asian families like to look after their own relatives at home. There’s a sort of stigma attached to the hospice within our community that if your loved one goes inside it means you cannot look after them yourself but that’s not the case. We were lucky enough to be able to look after Bibi at home with the support of the hospice so I think it’s important that the Asian community knows that help is available to them if they too want to take care of their loved one.

“David was there for us just as much as he was for Bibi and she never stopped smiling. The support we all had was amazing. After Bibi passed away we were all offered bereavement counselling and I actually had some sessions which helped me. It was nice to be able to talk to somebody without being judged and speak about my feelings.”

Sue and her family have raised thousands of pounds for the hospice through various fundraising activities since Bibi Rai died in 2011.

She adds: “I really enjoy my fitness so I held two spin classes in 2013 and 2014 for the hospice and we are hoping to take part in the Colour Blast 5k for Compton this year on what would have been Bibi’s birthday.”  

Pictured from L-R: Tania Rai, Jordan Rai, Sue Rai, Permjit Rai and Simone Rai 
Pictured: Bibi Rai and a bear made from one of her scarves. 

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